You look at your closet. Nothing fits or is seasonably appropriate. All of your shoes are uncomfortable. You see lovey dovey couples and assume they are either drunk or having an affair. Your body hair is growing at the same rate you are losing the hair on your head. When you receive a text, email or phone call, the tone or content of the message is annoying or inappropriate. You haven’t looked forward to a date in months. It’s time to use one of your time outs and take the team off of the court.
People meet under many different set of circumstances. I know a suburban woman who was ditched by her ex with four young kids and no job. Eager to meet someone, she met her husband online, a handsome urban divorce attorney and it was love at first sight. They’ve been married for 10 plus years.
With so many local options, it is a wonder how anyone is single for long. But they are. Take the Seinfeld episode where George Costanza wanted a job with George Steinbrenner of the Yankees. He had tried so hard to get a job only to get rejected. The second he spoke from the gut and stopped acting desperate, he got the job of his dreams. Same goes for dating.
Responses get lackluster. We all can be guarded and reserved at times and meeting a stranger as a potential suitor can be awkward. Attitude and energy can be easily detected even via the telephone. There are only so many hours in the day…Here are a few tips to get your dating enthusiasm back.
*Catch up with old friends and swap stories
*Take a vacation
*Update your hair do, wardrobe or underwear
*Take a new class or join a new organization
*Read uplifting books
*Catch a movie
*Try a new recipe
*Invite a new friend to coffee
*Come to terms with your age, appearance and the past
You need a break. So what? Enjoy the people you have left behind on your quest for love…get the zip back in your step, recharge your batteries and give it another try with your new found stories and positive energy.
For more dating advice contact Rachel Canis at Best Foot Forward