Grandparents are a hugely important part of a child’s life. Not every child is so blessed as to have a grandparent involved in their life, but if they are , you should make it a priority to value and nurture that relationship.
Grandparents love unconditionally. Grandparents are a great source of wisdom, advice, and understanding. Grandparents are the best kind of babysitters, not only do they love your child and treat them as you would, but they are also free. Grandparents can be a safe place for your child, another person to affirm their value and their importance.
How then, can you as the parent, encourage and nurture your child’s relationship with their granparent?
1. Make sure to invite the grandparents to all major events such as Christmas, Easter, Thanksgiving, and birthdays. However, remember that they are people with lives as well. Be thankfull for their involvement but not demanding of it.
2. Respect your differences. Your children’s grandparents are going to have different opinions about what you should do with your children. Listen to their advice. Listening does not mean always following the advice, it does however mean giving time and thought to what is being said. They just might have a few good tricks that they have picked up along the way.
3. Keep communication flowing. If the grandparents are far away or if they are near, keeping communication going back and forth is critical to developing a lasting bond. If your child has an exciting day, let them call grandma about it. Telling her about their wonderful day helps to create a common bond, and it also gives your child another chance to be encouraged and to share their joy. If your kids do something funny, call the grandparents and tell them about it. Who doesn’t like to hear a funny story, and what makes it better, is that it is about someone that they love.
4. Love them yourself. Whether they are your parents or in-laws, if the children’s grandparents are involved in their lives, love them for it. These people give your children so much in terms of love, understanding, and sometimes even presents. If you have different personalities, if you think on different planes, or if you are entirely in tune, no matter where you are at, you can love these people for the value and the love they pour into your child’s life.
What children need most are the essentials that grandparents provide in abundance. They give unconditional love, kindness, patience, humor, comfort, lessons in life. And, most importantly, cookies. ~Rudolph Giuliani
Perfect love sometimes does not come until the first grandchild. ~Welsh Proverb
This article is dedicated to all of the wonderful granparents involved in my children’s lives. We love you. Thank you.
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