Not too long ago, I went with my boyfriend to see the new movie, Going the Distance. For those of you who haven’t seen it, it’s about a guy and a girl who meet, fall in love, and try to maintain a long distance relationship. That got me thinking: Has recent technology made it easier, or even better, to handle the distance of love?
We have Skype. We have texting. We even have face-time, for those lucky enough to own an iPhone 4. So really, is there any excuse for not making that connection last? It seems like technology has single handedly provided us with the answer to being far away from our loved ones. It’s different than before. We’re not sitting around landlines, waiting for that one call of the whole day.
I asked my roommate, Jamie, who is 6 hours away from her boyfriend, Ben how technology has affected their two year relationship.
“Skype is amazing,” she says. “I think it’s the reason why our relationship has lasted. It is so nice to be able to see his face everyday. It is the best form of communication other than being face to face. Sometimes I’ll just be doing homework and while he plays Call of Duty, but it feels like we’re in the same room. We’ve even watched TV shows online together.”
Does being able to see each other replace the physical connection? No, it doesn’t. But you still keep the flame alive by sharing that verbal connection. Even though people say texting is an impersonal form of communication, it’s still important when it comes to long distance. It lets you know what the other person is doing, and can keep you updated on little things throughout the day.
“We text when I’m at school, or on the light rail. Places where you shouldn’t talk on the phone,” Jamie explains.
So why are people still doubtful about long distance relationships if we have the technology to bring us closer? Of course, you should always have a good balance of physical intimacy and verbal intimacy – but communication is still key in both aspects.
“I don’t think people truly understand long distance relationships until they’re in one,” Jamie says. “I would say more people don’t have faith in our relationship. We tried the whole long distance relationship two years ago when we lived only two and a half hours apart. Now that we are in completely different states six and a half hours apart, people don’t really think we’ll work out. This time is a little different because we are both older and more mature, but it’s something we have to work at every day.”
And if you’re willing to go the effort, you’ll see results. After all, doesn’t distance make the heart grow fonder?