This may sound stupid, well, yes, it is sort of stupid but I actually thought of something to write about while watching the movie Couples Retreat. Hold the laugher please. You may or may not have seen the movie, but that is beside the point. Even though it is a funny relationship movie, I do find it relevant to many relationships today. All of the couples in the movie have some sort of problem, but one couple in particular is contemplating getting a divorce but before they do so, they sign-up for a couples therapy retreat in order to hopefully solve there problems and avoid the divorce. They also convince some of there friends to attend the retreat as well and even though one couple in particular is thinking of getting a divorce, all of the couples each have their own set of problems and issues that they need to deal with and solve. The topic that really stood out to me while watching this movie was the proactive approach that these couples took in order to work through and ultimately solve their problems with their significant other.
Why do we read articles like the one we are reading now? Why do we go to marriage counselors? Why do we ask for advice from our friends and family? Why do we watch relationship movies? Because we all want different perspectives and viewpoints in order to solve these problems. Just like the movie, we all have problems to deal with and solve, but we have to take it upon ourselves to get the ball rolling and solve these problems. Many of us have been in relationships and have experienced a multitude of problems that we have to solve. But in saying that, you have to be willing to work and solve these problems with this person in order to solve them in the first place.
In going back to the topic that stuck out to me the most was the fact that all these couples wanted to better their relationships. All of them were unhappy about something within their relationships but ultimately all of them wanted to work it out. Many of us want to as well but may not know how or even where to begin. So that’s why we watch movies, read articles and seek advice. Problems are inevitable in any relationship but most if not all of these problems can be solved. None of us want to be wrong or be accountable for a mistake we may have made, but problems will always arise and it is how you solve them that makes the relationship that much stronger. If you see any future with this person beyond what you have already gone through, then you will have to face and solve these problems head on. Sometimes you will be able to work through them rather easily and other times you will feel as though your head is going to explode. But it is up to both of you to recognize that you will have problems that need to be solved and you have to think of ways in which to solve them.
Just like the title of this article suggests. Relationships are a two-way street, not a one-way bike path.