James Jones, a furious Florida dad stormed onto his child’s school bus because his 13-year-old daughter who suffers from cerebral palsy had been bullied.
It’s normal for a parent to be upset about their children being bullied. And no one can ever fault this dad for being upset. His poor child was being tormented by boys on the bus.
Yet, this dad terrified innocent kids on the bus, used the “F” word and threatened to kill whoever was responsible for bullying his daughter. Death threats cannot be taken lightly no matter how upset a person is.
Does her deserve jail? NO! But, as diffifcult as it is, Mr. Jones along with other parents need to approach this issue rationally.
Yesterday, parents in New York went to a bully’s home and told the bully’s parents that their child was bullying their child. But it didn’t stop there. They threatened the bully with horrible things that would happen to him.
The bully’s parents were devastated that their child was a bully and have already taken steps to rectify the situation, but to have their child threatened by adults was taking it too far.
In defense of the victims and their parents, they should be upset. Their children are being tormented. But for adults to threaten the bullies and do exactly what they are accusing the bullies of is completely wrong.
It doesn’t resolve anything. It‘s counterproductive, it backfires on the child victim and the bully doesn’t stop.
When adults threaten bullies, clearly they’re sending a message that they are upset and want their children kept safe, but they are also sending out a clear signal that it’s okay to handle conflict by being a bully!
When kids are bullied it’s horrible! No child should be bullied in any way. But parents should not over-react. They should approach the situation as calmly as possible, not over-react and seek help.
Schools must step up to the plate and help as well. It’s one thing to expel a child from school for bullying but that won’t stop the child from bullying.
We must educate our kids, parents and schools. The way a parent handles conflict resolution is very likely how their child will handle conflict resolution. And if parents have a sense of entitlement, than it’s likely their children will as well – opening the door to being a bully.
In the Florida case, the school bus driver knew what was happening and should have reported it to the school, who should have taken action.
In the New York case, this hasn’t completely played out yet, but I’m hoping the bully’s parents and the parents of the victim can resolve this between the two families, rather than bully the bully. The parents of the bully are fully on board admitting that their child was wrong. Not only is their child going to receive counseling, but the child is being educated at home about right and wrong and is being punished.
Kids have the right not to be victims of bullying. Bystanders who witness bullying need to step forward and be upstanders.
Parents — educate yourselves.
Educate your children on how to handle bullying.
Get help for your child if he or she is a bully.
So kudos to the parents of the bullies who recognize that their child has a problem and who are taking action to make sure their child never bullies again. To the adults who bully the bullies – think again, and to the schools who do nothing – wake up!
The issue of bullying and cyberbullying is very heated. And while it is easy to understand the child victim’s pain and torment, as well as the anguish of the victim’s parent, let’s all cool down and work together. It’s for our kids, their future and the future of our world!
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