He had been this way his whole entire life. Steve. As a kid he was so optimistic to the point where even in the worst situations he’d inevitably and unfortunately end up in, he’d always be a little too optimistic & hope for the best, when deep down every one else knew that the situation would have a bad ending most definitely. Naive.
“There’s a difference between being optimistic and being naive…. Steve, I don’t think you know the difference anymore. And it scares me because you can’t afford to be naive in the world we live in today.” A good friend, Rach, said one day. In relationships he was even worse. Everybody knew deep down that his girlfriends would see other people intimately whilst his heads we up in the clouds. He thought he was living the perfect life because he was in a “monogamous relationship” with the woman he was madly in love. Yeah…Sure.
He was completely forgetting the fact that his past relationships always ended with another man calling him to tell him a little something like this…”Don’t call her, Don’t text her, she’s mine now. Thank you and goodbye.” The language is cleaned up a little bit but that’s basically the main message in that phone call.
Question- Why is it that people are able to cheat on their significant other if their significant other is naive*?
Answer- Because they can! When you date someone who is naive, you could get away with murder! If you were a murderer, you would have so many skeletons in your coat closet at home and your naive lover would just consider them decorations for Halloween. That’s naïve for ya!
This was Steve’s life, believe it or not. Day in and day out he would have to make up excuses. Excuses that went a little bit like this…
“Well she’s just having a really stressful week at work, so that’s why she has been staying out so late. She’s been working really, really hard…”
“I don’t see why it’s a big deal that I am broke and in debt. She really, really wanted to go shopping at Ontario Mills Mall, (A humongous mall in Ontario, in Riverside County, California. it is said this mall is about 2 miles long on the inside.”), to get a few outfits. She left her purse at home! What was I supposed to do?!”
“Oh, that’s just crazy! They’re just friends, there’s nothing going on between the 2 of them. Friends stay the night at each others houses all of the time.”
At what point in relationships will people begin to realize that the whole “I’m just an optimist” facadeis just an act & they are truthfully naive?
Being naive is basically a mix of denial, & sheer stupidity. When men in this city, Riverside, in the world, are naive everybody compares them to a marshmallow, weak with no taste. But, when women are naive, they are, ‘desperate women who will believe anything that will help them sleep at night’. Please, just save yourself the humiliation & time. Just wake up & get real.