Sex, sex, sex, and more sex did we just talk about it?
How do we talk about sex to our partner, spouse, lover? Do we say that we want to have sex, or do you want to have sex, or how about lets just do it? Do we really know what to do to turn our partner on?
In many relationships people will have sex and may ask a few questions or experiment a little but most of the time they assume that the other person will tell them what they like or they may just pride themselves on being a great lover. If this was the case then why in so many marriages is sex the one thing that typical couples will complain about?
Let’s just do it and not talk!
The truth of the matter is that couples before they get into a relationship or marriage are not given a class on how to understand and communicate what they want out of their partner and how to ask for it.
Many just jump into bed and can’t wait to get to the point of passionate sex and maybe they do, but maybe they don’t. Lust can be a driving factor for a time and the thought of having sex with that person can be enough to make sex fantastic, but what happens when that lust goes away, the newness is gone, the sex becomes boring, common, typical or just downright lousy, what’s next, especially if the couple is married, do they end the marriage, go out and cheat, what do they do in this situation?
What they can do is to go back to the basics where it should have started to begin with.
Get to know your spouse in the proper way, what their skin feels like, what sounds they make, how to pleasure them, and how they can pleasure you. That is what talking about sex is all about!
The five day sex challenge with your, spouse, lover, or partner:
Day 1 non-sexual touching
Spend time in the bedroom touching each others bodies in a non-sexual way, just seeing what each others skin feels like. Do not touch for sexual pleasure just for intimacy, do not have sex. Touch your partners body for your pleasure, see what parts of their body is pleasing to you. Take turns for at least 20 minutes each.
Day 2 what feels good
Talk about what you do like while being touched, what feels good to you, each taking turns to ask one another what feels good. This is the time to start touching each others intimate parts. Do not have sex or reach climax! Just experience your partners touch.
Day 3 show them
Take your partners hand and show them with your hand on top the way that you like to be touched, the pressure, soft hard, what feels good to you, so that they can understand. Use the first couple of sessions together just touching each other and getting to know one another do not have intercourse or reach climax, this is not a race, and it is about exploring one another’s bodies and mind. Take turns
Day 4 do it yourself
Show your partner what you like in front of them by doing it to yourself, so they can see what turns you on. Touching yourself and knowing what you like is so important in explaining to your partner what they can do for you. Show them your body all of it!
Day 5 the moment
Spend time kissing and caressing each other, slowly working into intercourse, and then climax, This is about getting to know each other on a deeper level. If you are not ready to move forward you can increase the days for each step depending on your comfort level. Some couples will want to explore each step for two days instead of one.
Most people want to have deep intimate sex but forget that each person has different likes and dislikes surrounding sex, no two people are alike and the only way to truly have great sex with that person is to take the time to explore, communicate and really talk about sex!
If you decide that you want to get more creative and add some adult toys that could be your step number 6!