I really don’t know why I am recently been so big into the “making up new words” scene. I have tried to create new words in the English language in previous posts here, here, and here. Maybe it’s my attempt to be humorous. Or maybe it’s because I sometimes become so frustrated with the lack of my verboseness I just make up non-sensical words to ease my suffering. Either way, my new word for the week is “demarried.”
My recent attempt at creativity occurred after I recently became “friends” on Facebook with someone whom I had known for several months. I decided it was acceptable to friend her, and her acceptance was immediate. Soon thereafter, I attempted to send her a message inquiring about a mutual friend of ours but was unable to find her in my list of friends. I viewed her page and noticed that the “Add as Friend” button was displayed. I have yet to address this with her because I was completely confused as to the reason she defriended me? I don’t believe I did something so egregious during the week to cause this action considering I hadn’t even spoken with her (although I guess that could be a reason).
This led me, of course to process and ponder exactly what are the reasons someone “defriends” someone else on Facebook? I have never defriended anyone for the simple reason that if I have issues with someone or have slight animosity towards someone, I will attempt to verbally address this with them either on the phone or in person. In addition, even if the issue was not resolved, I still couldn’t see myself actually being so upset as to go in and attempt to use a click of a button to ease my anger. I know many people defriend others on Facebook. Could it be that by clicking the “defriend” button, the feelings one had (or has) for someone else miraculously disappears? To me, clicking it becomes callous and cold, devious and calculating, standoffish and impersonal, but maybe that’s the point.. Maybe it’s a way to express feelings without having to verbally share emotions with someone else. Maybe it’s an attempt to shield the pain and/or the embarrassment of addressing something difficult with someone else face-to-face.
In my weekly time of thinking about my ex, our marriage, things not to say to her, and divorce, I began to wonder why on earth is it not possible that we couldn’t just “demarry” our ex-spouses. If you reach a point in your marriage where you realize it is over, why can’t you log-on to your computer, push a button and just become “demarried.” I then realized that was the reason I became divorced in the first place. We enjoyed pushing each other’s buttons.