There is almost no feeling on earth equal to the joy of dating someone you are crazy about. You are currently more inclined to ignore irritating behaviors. Enjoy your “floating on a cloud” sensations, because later you will ignore nothing. The chemistry between the two of you is positively magnetic. You text each other in the gaps between calling, and you want to be with him or her every moment of your free time. The emotions you experience when around this person are indescribable. You never want the way you feel in these moments to subside.
You work to quickly resolve any disagreements that could disrupt your happy home, or chose to excuse a few idiosyncrasies. So what, your guy or gal is an hour late for scheduled dates, and offers no real excuse for their tardiness. After all, he or she isn’t an animal you keep on a tight leash. Everything seems much more tolerable when you are high on hormones. Later things begin to cool off, however you are still more than willing to let a few “dislikes” slide. You are really developing strong feelings for this special person. Therefore, why sweat the small stuff when they are ideal in every other area.
Today, all of your dreams come true and you say “I do” to Mr. or Mrs. Wonderful. Next the hormones are past cooling they are completely frozen. Now you have a kid or two, bills that aren’t going to pay themselves, and less tolerance. Quirks you wouldn’t have thought twice about in the dating phase just might spark a homicidal rampage. You consider ending the relationship frequently in your head, and may even say it out loud when you get upset. Where did all the love and understanding disappear too?
Yes, the consistent decline of hormonal based attraction does play a significant role. That being said, what about couples that remain together years before marrying or leaving the relationship? Those couples end up in Splitsville too. This proves hormones are not the biggest factor in failed relationships. The number one factor in relationships that end, is drum roll please, “indifference.” Couples simply stop caring about pleasing their mates or resolving disputes. They stop wanting to find ways to improve their romantic connection. They put forth no effort to communicate their feelings to one another. In their minds, they begin to see themselves happier without the other person. These conscious or unconscious thoughts only work to further deteriorate their link.
Grew apart, incompatibility, and plain “I just want out” all fall underneath the umbrella of indifference. Some never have a successful relationship because of indifference. These people go around looking for a perfect person. Indifference is a master trickster, you will be convinced that the problem is always the other person, and not your own choices. Never fall into the “it’s them” trap, because you just may end up alone.
The truth, some people need to go their separate ways for their emotional health. Make sure, you have done everything you know to do before calling the relationship quits. Putting everything you have into staying happily together is most advantageous to you. These are traits that you will need to make your next relationship bypass Splitsville, and plant roots in “Happily Ever After.”
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