In the first part of “How to be happy,” I spoke about the importance of relationships and expressing gratitude in your life.
The Mayo Clinic, in Rochester, MN, says that most people who are happy seem to intuitively know this, and their lives are built on the following pillars:
– Devoting time to family and friends
– Appreciating what they have
– Maintaining an optimistic outlook
– Feeling a sense of purpose
– Living in the moment
I will now talk about how optimism plays a big role in being happy as well as finding your purpose in life and importance of living in the moment.
As I stated in the previous article, when expressing gratitude for the positive things in your life and spending time with positive influences, it forces you to spend less time dwelling on the negative. Try to turn this into a habit by seeing the positive side of things.
Of course, if you are not usually an optimistic person, this can be more difficult and may take time. Taking the first step is hard, but the second step is always harder. We have complete control over our thoughts and that is the first place to start…recognize negative thoughts as you have them. the Mayo Clinic then advises, take a step back and ask yourself these key questions:
- Is the situation really as bad as I think?
- Is there another way to look at the situation?
- What can I learn from this experience that I can use in the future?
Find your purpose
People who strive to meet a goal or fulfill a mission — whether it’s growing a garden, caring for children or finding one’s spirituality — are happier than those who don’t have such aspirations. Having a goal provides a sense of purpose, bolsters self-esteem and brings people together. What your goal is doesn’t matter as much as whether the process of working toward it is meaningful to you. Try to align your daily activities with the long-term meaning and purpose of your life. Research studies suggest that relationships provide the strongest meaning and purpose to your life. So cultivate meaningful relationships.
If you haven’t found your mission or passion for life, ask yourself these questions to help uncover your purpose:
- What do I have a strong passion for?
- What are my proudest achievements?
- What do I want my legacy to be?
Live in the moment
All too often we overlook how short life can and put focus on things that won’t mean a thing down the road. Don’t take for granted the loved ones in your life and look for opportunities to enjoy the small pleasures of everyday life. Don’t waste your precious time rehashing the past or worrying about the future. Your life is what you want to make it to be so start today and make your dreams into a reality!
Information for this article was found on the Mayo Clinic article “How to be happy: Tips for cultivating contentment”