We all grew up with learning manners as a child. Lately, it appears manners are lacking in all capacities. Manners and Etiquette were practiced daily in United States culture in the 1900’s. As we search for someone we can be compatible, it is important to practice manners. Some may consider it “old school” to open the car door or pull out a chair for a woman, or help her with her coat, but it does show consideration for that person. It is said at times that men do not display these manners for fear of women’s liberation which came about in the 1960’s. That may be the case in some situations. But, the majority of women do enjoy a man who demonstrates considerate behaviors.
In a society where everything needs to be accomplished better and faster, manners have gone by the wayside. People eat faster, work faster, communicate faster, and make faster decisions, etc. Has this caused a society where concern for others is no longer important because we have to do everything in a hurry? One might agree this philosophy has somewhat caused this mindset.
In years past, a man was not allowed to eat at the dinner table unless he removed his hat. Most men would find this laughable these days. At every restaurant a man wears a hat. It is difficult to learn to not eat fast as lunch hours are rushed and people learn to eat fast because they have very little time. Sometimes, that is a difficult habit to break. It does take practice to remember when it is not a lunch break and it is a date. In observation at restaurants, people talk on cell phones, blow their noses at the table, burp, eat fast, and even swat flies at the table and not wash their hands. What kind of society have we become? These are all considered bad manners and do not leave a good impression and it does not show respect. Women are also guilty of these types of bad manners.
Many times, men will not hold the door for a woman or a man and the door slams in their face. What is that about? We are all in a hurry these days. It would be nice to return to the manners of days gone by where men and women respected each other.
We live in a society where it is acceptable to use vulgar hand gestures when we are angry. Years ago, women would never have been treated with respect if they participated in such an activity. Women who did those kinds of things would be considered undesirable dating material. In talking with WWII veterans, they would speak of women who were like the “girl next door”. The women they dated would be someone a man would be honored to introduce to his mother. Their mother would have been in shock to hear a vulgar word come out of a prospective daughter-in-law’s mouth or demonstrate a gesture with the finger.
Is it wrong to expect respect? Manners and respect do go hand-in-hand. If a person demonstrates manners, then they are more likely to treat someone with respect. It is a matter of self-respect to expect respect from someone else. Sometimes, while observing manners in the City of Wichita, the question arises as to whether bad manners exist just in Kansas? Hopefully, that is not the case. From this day forward, let’s try to remember the good manners we learned as a child and pass it on to others. Be kind, considerate and show respect for each other.