Remember back when you were little, the Wiz had a DJ who would always close with the same line, “if you can’t change the people around you, CHANGE the people around you.” It is amazing how even being little, we were able to understand what that meant, if you can’t fix or help those around you evolve or adapt, then it is time for you to get new people around you.
How do you change the people around you without having to physically change who is around you? That answer is simple we need to be the change we want to see in the world. What does that mean? It is very simple. It is easy to say that you are going to do something. It is even easier to say that you want to do something. Some of us in the world know exactly who we are and what we want and we will tell you, but then some of those people do not have the guts to put their words into action. Some of those people will talk about it all day, but not once do anything about it. What makes it so bad is that they will then turn right around and complain about what is missing and what isn’t happening even though they have just as much opportunity to make it happen as anyone else, they just choose not to. To be the change we want to see, all we have to do is ignore the boundaries that society places on us and do what it is we want to do, do what feels right and good to us, and enjoy our life to the fullest. How can one find joy and bring joy to another’s life when they limit themselves? How can one experience happiness and give happiness when they limit those around them?
Nothing in the world that we live in is all rainbows and sunshine and nothing that exists today is one hundred percent perfect, but to strive for perfection makes being imperfect a perfect situation because the effort, drive, ambition, and journey is there. In addition, the journey is what it is all about. It is not about where we come from, not about where we are going, but how we get there that defines us. Being a millionaire is being a millionaire, which cannot be taken away from a person clearly. You can look at their bank accounts and see they are rich. Being a self-made millionaire who worked all their life to get where they are now as opposed to a person handed millions is a different story. We all have the ability to be millionaires in our own little way if we just become the change we want to see. We all have the ability to get where we want to get and be who we want to be if we just have the courage to take that first step and dare people to follow us.
The Lack is a term that has been used previously to describe why some people in relationships cheat. Many people did not like the fact that it made so much sense logically, yet they had no rational argument to rebut it. The rational argument that everyone overlooked is to simply be the change you want to see in that person. A relationship, like most things in life is made up of percentages, if one person simply isn’t bringing their equal percent to the table, instead of having that lack or empty space in there, the best method of resolving the solution is for the person already at fifty percent to fill in the remaining space to alleviate the lack and BE the change they want to see. The theory much like the lack has its holes and for emotional people it is hard to swallow, but it is a solution that allows the person lacking to see what it is they are not doing by observing the person who is not lacking do them. If they are not able to make up that ground that is lacking, then either they will be left because the percent making up the ground will leave or they will feel bad for being a failure and leave themselves. Either way, like evolution has taught us, only the strong survive.
We as a people cannot help but to mimic. It starts when we are children and then the media blows it up and exploits it as we grow up on TV, in magazines, and in movies. We see these people, these things, these lifestyles, whether they be physical things or spiritual things, and we want to be and have those things too. The same thing goes for a less superficial approach when you are simply in close quarters or close connection with people you work with, are friends with, are involved with, or just simply know. Moreover, in order to change them or help them evolve or adapt, it often means to accentuate what it is they need to reform, by overly doing them yourself. The approach of not catching them a fish, but teaching them to fish only works when know anything about fishing at all. What do you do when they have never seen a fish in their life? Never ate one? Never seen one cooked? You can’t teach them what they should of learned years ago, you can only hope they are able to catch on and keep up so they don’t get left behind.
Not everyone is made or raised the same way. There are those who are on this earth that purposely do and say the right things because they want to and that is a part of them. The words, “I didn’t think about it”, do not leave their mouths because they are always thinking. Being able to think rationaling is one of the few things that separates us from apes. The words, “I’m sorry” or “It was a mistake”, do not leave their mouths either because they go out of their way every second to make sure that they do not have to do anything to apologize for. They actively live a lifestyle that promotes being the change they want to see in the world. Those who do not live this lifestyle, like to ask and demand and request things from others when they are not legitimately entitled to them. Females especially. It is not a man’s job to be attracted to you, want to talk to you, want to be with you in any way, shape, or form. It is your job to appeal to him in a manner that he has no choice, but to want to be around you, on you, in you, beside you every time you are within eye sight just as it is his job in regards to you. If you can’t do that for him and he hasn’t left you yet, step your game up or find someone who you can do that for.
Life is a gift. It is not to be taken for granted, nor is it to be wasted. What it is to be, is cherished and enjoyed. Have people around you, who help you enjoy your life, not bring it down. Be to the people in your life who they want you to be, so that they will be to you, who you need them to be. Conquer the lacks of life with a full on assault of confidence and a new found perspective on life that will lead you to discover who you truly are and who others have yet to see you as. You only get one shot at life on this world, be the change you want to see in it.