How often do you think about the city you live in and the surrounding culture having an influence on how long your relationships will last? It may seem far-fetched, but the concept actually makes a lot of sense when a large enough sample size is taken.
Have you been on a vacation recently, or traveled out of state to a city you could say is different from Chicago? (New York and a few other big cities do not count). The moment you step foot off the plane you probably feel out of place. Everything slows down the further away you get from the city. Go to any area down south and you will feel as if things are moving in slow motion. People drive slower, walk slower, and even perform daily functions at a more relaxed pace then we do here.
Some southerners who travel up north to a big city like Chicago instantly feel trapped inside some non-stop, fast paced carnival ride. While a change of scenery certainly points out the differences between various regions within the country, it can also highlight the differences in how people form and maintain their relationships.
Don’t believe it?
Consider this: When you are brought up a certain way and with a certain mentality about how to function in society, it has a tremendous impact on who you become as a person. If you conform to a fast-paced society where everyone is on the go to reach their destination as fast as possible, you are more likely to treat your relationships with the same impatience or demanding attitude.
People who are used to doing something and then quickly moving on to the next activity, will also tend to lean towards speeding up their relationships. If the mate they have chosen does not satisfy their needs right away, rather than allowing time for the relationship to grow, they may toss them aside in order to move on to the next option. Patience is a word most Chicagoans never learn, and relationships are certainly no exception.
In slow-moving communities, the opposite is true. There is a good chance that relationships will last longer and develop slower. There is also reason to believe that in smaller towns the options seem limited, and so couples will stay together knowing the likelihood of meeting someone more suitable is slim.
While this is all only theory, and no statistical evidence regarding divorce rates support this idea, the concept makes perfect sense when applied to couples that are not married. Finding statistical information on break-ups between unmarried couples by state or region is almost impossible, but some evidence can be obtained through personal experience. Whether you have lived in or near Chicago your entire life, or have just arrived on the scene, you can compare and analyze your own friends and family’s relationships to form your own opinion on the issue.