You can’t go watching a teen movie or TV show without some mention of sex or seeing sex on the screen. There is so much pressure these days for high school students to lose their virginity and the older you get; the more pressure is put on you. About 85% of high school kids will lose their virginity before they graduate high school. In most teen movies, the main characters want to give their virginity away to anyone that will take it. They see it as a burden instead of a special gift. With all this pressure and so much curiosity from all the media hype, is anyone waiting anymore?
Meet Shawn Procter, a 33 year old who originally resided in Boca Ratonbut is now residing in Chicago. He is the program director of an organization called “WHAT’S GOOD.” So what is good? “What’s Good is based on creating a new culture empowering students to discover value by avoiding high-risk activities such as sexual activity, drugs, violence, and drinking.” Shawn continues, “We provide information to equip students to make critically thought-through, good choices to live healthy (physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually), while building relationships of dignity and respect. Voluntarily choosing to save sex for marriage is a part of that. It is a choice we give students, not a demand.” says Shawn. Shawn decided at the age of 14 to save all sexual relations for his future wife. He kept his promise to himself, his future wife and the Lord until his wedding night at the age of 32. echoflam.com goes into more depth with Shawn Procter.
echoflam.com- What is your main goal for the What’s Good program?
Shawn Procter- I want to see a generation of youth living out what is true while rejecting culture’s lies. I want to see them making good choices leading to good health and a good future.
EX- How many classes do you teach?
SP- We teach eight sessions of an in class curriculum over a period of four weeks throughout the Chicago Public School System.
EX- How many schools does the program visit?
SP- Over 37 middle and high schools in 7 years.
EX- What are the age groups of the students?
SP- 6th grade to 12th grade
EX- How do the students react to the program?
SP- At the beginning, they usually make fun of it or think it will be boring. By the last session, they usually write letters thanking us for being truthful and expressing a desire for us to come back. I told a class recently that our government funding was getting pulled a year early because the current administration doesn’t support abstinence education. One of the students was upset and said “They don’t think we teenagers can wait?”
EX- What was high school like for you?
SP- For the most part, I was trying to figure out who I was while deciding whether or not I needed to match up to everyone else’s expectations or just is ok with my personal convictions. It was very confusing. During that period, I realized that I had to be true to who I know God had called me to be.
EX- Is there any other reasons besides religious ones that you waited for marriage?
SP- I wanted to be healthy. I wanted to live as “negative consequence-free” as possible. I never had to worry about the fear of a result while sitting in an STD clinic or growing up too fast by becoming a teenage father. I wanted to be an example to others as well. I didn’t want to settle for what the culture says is the accepted.
EX- Did a lot of other kids pick on you for being a virgin?
SP- They looked at me as being very naive and almost a goody-goody. All the girls at school said I would make a great husband, just not a cool boyfriend.
EX- What did you say to them?
SP- It was important to me because it’s important to God. I didn’t want to give up something special to someone I wouldn’t be with forever, rather I wanted to save and give my virginity to the woman I would someday commit myself to.
EX- What was first time experience like?
SP- It was the most intimate, intense, beautiful experience I have ever had. I have never encountered the presence of God so intensely.
EX- So, it was worth waiting-
SP-A hundred thousand times yes. I gained everything by waiting instead of potentially losing everything by not.
EX- What would you say to other high school kids that want to wait?
SP- You are valuable and worth waiting for. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise.
Shawn also wanted to make a point that abstinence is not just a choice for a virgin, but for anyone regardless of their past may choose to save everything else in the future for their partner. If you would like furthur information about the What’s Good program, email the writer at [email protected]
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