Ever wonder if you should stay in a relationship? Not sure when to call it quits? Well, there are signs that a relationship is doomed. Ignoring them won’t make them go away, even though many women stay in bad situations because the idea of dating again is scarier. Of course, if the other person is physically abusive, there doesn’t need to be any other reason to break things off. There are usually more subtle clues that should not be ignored.
- He ignores you when you talk. This is probably one of the more frustrating things a man can do. They get focused on what they are doing and shut out everything else. This sign on its own is no reason to throw him out, but it can be a precursor to worse things.
- He treats you like his mother. Yes, everyone knows it’s always best to be involved with a man who gets along with his mom, but that’s not what is meant. When a woman starts to feel she is picking up after a toddler instead of a lover, resentment will begin to build. It’s hard enough cleaning up after yourself, so you shouldn’t have to clean up after him, too. He is an adult and should not leave his clothes and other belongings on the floor for you to put away.
- He’d rather spend time in a bar than home with you. Instead of sitting home by yourself, letting resentment build over his rudeness, call up a few friends and go out on the town. Maybe you’ll meet Mr. Right and will be able to kick Mr. Wrong to the curb. You never know who he’s flirting with in that bar anyway.
- Foreplay is unfairly one-sided. Remember when you two first got together, the sex was out of the world. He did whatever he could to please you. Then eventually it seemed to all be about him. He would want you to service him, but he didn’t seem interested in returning the favor. This is wrong on so many levels and can definitely lead to straying. No need to cheat on him. Break it off before it’s too late and find someone who lights your fire.
- Sex is too infrequent. Forget foreplay, nothing at all is happening in the bedroom. This is a definite sign that the relationship is over. If neither of you is interested in making the first move, it might be time to make the final move toward the door.
- Fights occur over the smallest thing. He shows up for a date late or doesn’t flush the toilet after using it, and you blow up at him. Or you sit on his phone, and he acts like you scratched his car. Fights over petty things are the beginning of the end. The resentment has built up so much that it will vent whenever there is the slightest reason for it.
- He’s cheated on you, or you’re tempted to cheat on him. Depending on how committed the relationship is, infidelity usually ends in the couple going separate ways. When one or the other wants to stray, it usually means he or she wants out. If it’s him, let him go. If it’s you, then you most likely have already made the decision to leave.
- You’re in a better mood when he’s not around. This screams that you don’t want to be with him. People in a relationship should miss each other when they are apart. If one or the other prefers to be alone, then something is very wrong with that dynamic. Get out before it’s too late.
- He never wants kids, but you do. This is a tough one for all concerned. Men can sometimes change their mind, especially once they get attached to their child. Others will leave if you get pregnant. If you think there is no chance he will stick around if you had his child, kick him to the curb now! On the other hand, if you don’t want kids, but he does, don’t waste anymore of his time. Find someone else who feels the same way about having kids.
- He has hit you. This is the final blow, no pun intended. It doesn’t matter if he said he’s sorry and won’t do it again. If you stick around after being hit, something in his primitive brain will record the fact that you let him hit you. It will happen again. Get out of the relationship, even if everything else is perfect. Nothing will ever be the same, the trust is gone, and he doesn’t respect you. Find someone else, no matter how hard or scary that might seem.
If your mate is only guilty of a few of the first signs, there might be reason to stick with the relationship. Depends on how great of a guy he is, and if his strong points outweigh the negatives. The signs get more severe the higher they go. Just one of the last few is enough to justify pulling the plug. It is definitely a personal choice, but no man is worth living in hell with.